The Ins and Outs Of Living With a Host Family
Here in Berlin, I live in what is called a guest or host family. That basically means I’ve chosen to live with a German family instead of staying in the student dorms. Before coming here, we had to write an essay about ourselves, and based on that, the program directors decided which family would be the best match. To be honest, I had been hoping for a family with kids or maybe a pet, but instead, I ended up with a lovely couple in their 50s. And honestly, even though it wasn’t what I pictured at first, it’s still been a good experience.
Living with a host family is so different from staying in the dorms. I knew that the dorm options here would be full of other American exchange students, which is a great opportunity to make friends, but I was hoping for a more authentic experience. A big reason why I came here was to expand my horizons, and I knew that if I lived with other Americans, it would be way too easy to just stick with them and not step into the German Culture. By living with a German family, I’ve been able to experience the culture on a much deeper level. I’ve gotten to try traditional German foods, watch how daily life flows here, and practice speaking German outside of the classroom. That said, it does make things harder when it comes to making friends within my program. Since I don’t live with them or even really near them, I miss out on some of the casual hangouts or late night bonding that happens in the dorms. Sometimes it feels like I’m missing a piece of the social experience.
But at the same time, I wouldn’t trade it. The couple I live with are very kind, and they’ve welcomed me into their home. Much like the rest of Germany, they’re very structured people, the type who like things neat and orderly, which was a little frustrating at first because I didn’t know what the right way to do things was. But as time has gone on, I’ve started to feel more comfortable and even more at home.
My home is in Schlachtensee, a suburb on the edge of Berlin, and it’s absolutely beautiful. I don’t live in the hustle and bustle of central Berlin, which sometimes makes me feel like I’m a bit removed, but it also has its perks. Right near my house, there’s this gorgeous lake where I can walk around or go swimming when the weather is nice. The picture I have here is the restaurant, The Big Pan. I live on the top floor of the apartments in the building behind the restaurant. It is a tiny apartment, but it’s decorated so adorably. I even have my own room, which is nice and cozy.
Another plus of living with a host family is that they feed you breakfast and dinner. And it’s good food at that! The dorm option here leaves you responsible for all your meals. And, your host family’s got your back on the small stuff. One day, it was raining, and my host mom offered me an umbrella. It’s the little things that are making this a much more personable experience than the dorms would have been.
The only downside is the commute. I live about 50 minutes away from school. Every morning, I walk to the station and hop on the S1 train. That ride takes around 15 minutes, and then I transfer to a bus for the rest of the trip. At first, I really dreaded the idea of spending that much time commuting every day. But now, I’ve grown to enjoy it. Germans don’t really talk much on public transportation, which is so different from America, but I quite like the silence. I’ll use that time to relax, wind down, reflect on my day, sometimes I journal, and I’ve even read a few books!
So even though I might miss out on some of the dorm life experiences, I feel like I’ve gained something equally valuable. Living with a host family had given me a deeper look into the culture and pushed me out of the bubble I might have stayed in otherwise. I’ve learned to make a few German dishes, gone to some neighborhood events, and found a new home on the other side of the world.
